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How can I talk to my child about war?

picture of a young girl holding a no war sign on a piece of cardboard

Supporting your child with worries about the war.

With War being so prevalent in the news it is unsurprising to find that children and young people are finding it worrying. They can’t understand it fully and find the scenes they may see upsetting. This may raise some tough questions that as parents and carers are tricky to answer.

This blog will hopefully give you some guidance on how to tackle those conversations.

Age Appropriate

The first thing to think about is your child’s age and maturity level. Younger children will need less information and details whereas older children will be able to handle more. Tailor your approach to your child’s age.

A safe space

Create a safe space for your child to talk. Be available for those moments when they have questions or are concerned. Let them know they can talk without judgement and can ask questions.

Be honest, but not graphic

You can be honest about the basic facts, but avoid graphic details that may worry them further. Use simple language and avoid jargon, that your child will understand.

Use age appropriate resources

There are lots of resources available online, as well as books and documentaries. Select ones that are age appropriate. You could do some drawing with them to help them express what it is they are feeling about the war.

Encourage Questions

Let your child know they can ask questions, that it’s ok to not understand War fully  as it is a complicated, but also that you may not have all the answers.

Conflict Resolution

It’s a great opportunity to talk about how to resolve conflict, use examples when you have had to resolve something with someone, ask if they have had to resolve something with a friend maybe.

Media Exposure

Be mindful about what they are seeing on the TV, social media, or any form of technology they may have access to. It’s very easy for children to access the news on things such as phones and tablets and see things that they may find distressing.

Talking about War is not easy, but it’s a way to start fostering empathy, and for children to develop an understanding of the world around them. If your child is showing signs of anxiety around this subject seek professional support from places such as school, GP, life coaches or counsellors.

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