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I have low self esteem

My self esteem is low what can I do?

Improving self-esteem is a gradual process that involves self-awareness, self-compassion, and intentional actions.

Here are some strategies  for you try to help build your self-esteem:

  • Challenge Negative Self-Talk: Pay attention to your inner dialogue and challenge negative thoughts and beliefs about yourself. Replace self-critical thoughts with more realistic and compassionate ones. For example: I have put on so much weight recently, I hate myself- change that to I am doing my best, I am a good person, weight can go up and down depending on what is happening in life, I won’t let it define who I am, I like myself.
  • Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, especially when facing challenges or setbacks. Acknowledge that everyone makes mistakes and that you deserve forgiveness and acceptance.Set Realistic Goals: Set achievable goals for yourself and celebrate your progress along the way. Break larger goals into smaller, manageable steps to build confidence and momentum.
  • Focus on Strengths and Achievements: Identify your strengths, talents, and past accomplishments. Reflect on your successes and use them as evidence of your capabilities and worth.
  • Take Care of Yourself: Prioritize self-care activities that nourish your body, mind, and spirit. This includes getting enough sleep, eating healthily, exercising regularly, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.
  • Establish Boundaries: Set boundaries in your relationships and prioritise your own needs and well-being. Learn to say no to activities or people that drain your energy or undermine your self-esteem.
  • Surround Yourself with Supportive People: Surround yourself with supportive friends, family members, or mentors who uplift and encourage you. Seek out positive relationships that validate and appreciate you for who you are.
  • Practice Assertiveness: Assert your needs, opinions, and boundaries in a respectful and confident manner. Communicate assertively and advocate for yourself in different areas of your life.
  • Seek Personal Growth: Engage in activities that promote personal growth and development, whether it’s learning new skills, pursuing hobbies, or exploring new interests.
  • Seek Professional Help if Needed: Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can help you explore underlying issues, develop coping strategies, and build self-esteem in a supportive and non-judgmental environment.

Remember that it is normal to have ups and downs along the way. Be patient with yourself, celebrate your progress, and continue to invest in your self-worth and well-being.